Showing posts with label guiding principles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label guiding principles. Show all posts

Thursday, January 8, 2015

Don't Fight It

Not to be confused with Don't Fight FOR It. 


In my last post I said one of my guiding mantras for the year was to continue to be true and authentic to myself and to listen to my intuition.  I believe deep down we all know what is truly best for us, but with all the external stimuli vying for our attention on a daily basis, it's sometimes gets buried, confused or lost in translation.  I think carving out times of stillness, when you can tune in to your inner voice, are important and essential practices for everyone.  This is not something I've always done and when I don't, I usually feel the consequences.  (If only I could get into meditation!)

When I said I hadn't made any grand-scale goals for the year, that was true, but I don't think it means I'm directionless, lazy or unambitious.  I don't think it's entirely realistic to assert what you will do for the next 365 days.  If you try something and decide it isn't for you, you should feel comfortable enough to admit that and change course.  I think many people stay in things that aren't right for them (jobs, relationships, etc.) far too long because of the 'sunk cost' mindset.  That is, 'I've already invested x amount of time/money/effort in this and even though it's not working, I can't back out now or I'll just lose all said time/money/effort'.  I've done it before simply because I didn't think quitting was an option. I figured maybe things would get better and I'd be stupid to start over from scratch with something new.  Goes great with fear of change!

I'm still trying to figure out my place in the world and what makes me feel fulfilled.  I may be late to that game, but do any of us ever have this all figured out?  When something doesn't feel right, I don't think you should fight it and continue on come hell or high water.  This doesn't mean you're a quitter.  When I worked in finance, I never really felt like I 'belonged'.  My personal skills, values, worldview, etc., did not match with that industry and I often felt like if I just kept working harder, things would eventually fall into place.  It took years of resistance from the Universe, starting with small hints and continually growing stronger, for me to see that who I was, wasn't going to change!  There's a key for every lock and that just wasn't mine :) 

So as I continue to look to the future, it's important for me to 'tune in', go with it, and not fight my true nature.  But as always, when I set my mind to achieve those things I am passionate about, you can bet I will fight FOR them.  I believe when you take actions that are in line with who you truly are, BIG things will happen and that is fully what I expect for 2015!



Do you ever find yourself fighting battles of what you should do vs. what feels right?

How do you tune in to your intuition?